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The world has changed tremendously. One of these great changes is that individuality takes the center stage of your own advancement rather than the collectivity of the group of people to which you belong, but which must act as your very own stepping stone. Cut-throat competition has become the hallmark of success. Gone are the days when academic papers and technical skills would grant you an outright advantage over others. Like products on a supermarket shelf, what attracts potential customers to a certain product at first glance is the branding (that outward appearance due to its unique packaging) and positioning (how it is strategically placed to be conveniently utilized). Branding and positioning are no longer the domain of products but also individuals. Personal branding and posing have become the key.
Personal branding (or simply personal grooming) is packaging yourself for that outright advantage which distinguishes you from the rest. Posing is strategically positioning yourself in such a manner that allows your target opportunity (in this case, power) to flow your direction. You are a biological magnet and how you attract or repel opportunities would depend on that force (power) of attraction (personal brand) within you (your inner self) and how you have angled (posed) yourself. When it comes to magnets, the simple law is that unlike poles attract each other while like poles repel each other. You have to be that ‘unlike’ others in order to attract them – Yes, be unique, otherwise, you will repel them. Pose yourself as that unlike pole – the extraordinary. The ‘magnetic’ field of posing is your body language – that mute signal that beckons power (an opportunity) towards you.
The power of positive self-image cannot be underrated. Psychologists world-over concur that your first impression is a lasting impression. In this competitive world, where everything from home to school, from school to college, from college to career, is weighed by the competitive scale, you cannot gain that coveted competitive advantage without having polished your self-image.
Your social and emotional intelligence – probably the greatest of all your intelligence required for your success – are projected through your body language. How you are viewed and understood by the rest of the world depends so much on your body language. The kind of friends you engender, the strength of your bond with your seniors, your peers, and your juniors also depends on the power of your body language and the image it portrays.
Power posing is a unique domain of body language. It is all about posing in a manner that sends signals of power from yourself to those around you bringing forth that desired recognition of the power of your being.
Chapter 1 introduces the basic of power posing and all you ought to know about it. Chapter 2 enlightens you on the key benefits you would naturally derive from effective power posing. Chapter 3 goes to the depth of body language as your stealth communication engine which you ought to fine-tune for optimum impact. Chapter 4 outlays the actual mechanics of power posing – how to do it. You need to keep important tips in your mind so as to cast that powerful power pose which are itemized in Chapter 5.
Ultimately, you need to be happy. Faking a power pose doesn’t make you happy. It is exuding power from within that does. This book demonstrates to you how you can use power posing to work on your inner self in order to boost your self-esteem and exude an outright self-confidence that wins the appreciation of others.


How to Use Your Body Language to Boost Your Career Success

Your body language influences your professional success at all levels. You can either pass or fail an interview with a potential employer depending on your body language. Every employer is looking for a confident and smart employee who can represent his brand well. Your body language affects your relationship with other team members and your leaders. The right body language could earn you a quick promotion.

If you are an employer, you can improve the relationship with clients and your employees. You can easily convert potential clients into repeat customer with the right body language. Your body language is as important to your career as your skills, competences, academic qualifications, and experience. Here are a few tips on how you to use your body language at the workplace:

  1. Get the Right Posture

You must command your space every time you stand or sit in a formal meeting. Widen your stance when you stand to talk and keep your posture upright. Hold your head high and pull your shoulders backward. Such a posture communicates power and confidence. You can take up more space by moving up and down as you speak. Make sure that your movements do not distracts your audience and shift their focus from your speech. Power posing helps your breath properly and boosts your confidence. The secret is to take as much as space as you can with your posture. Handheld devices may affect your posture. Use PowerPoint presentation where possible instead of holding your laptop, phone, or tablet.

  1. Use the Right Gestures

Gestures help you communicate your message clearly to your audience and create a lasting impression. When used properly, gestures will boost your thinking process and ensure that your ideas flow well. Your listeners will remember your message if you accompany your speech with hand gestures. Hence, if you are explaining any process to your team members, they will understand it and remember your instructions. Use open gestures and avoid introducing your audience’s space while at it. Open gestures are warm and inviting. Avoid using gestures to calm yourself down when stressed or nervous. Your listeners can tell that you are nervous if rub your hands, touch your hair, or play with your jewelry. Be still and calm yourself down before using gestures.

  1. Watch your Facial Expressions

Your facial expressions affect your mood. You will transfer the same mood to your listeners. You cannot engage your teammates or any other audience with a frowning face. Employees watch their leaders’ facial expressions to judge their moods. They will be either defensive or interactive depending on the facial expressions. If you are a team leader, train yourself to smile often as you speak to your team even when giving negative feedback. A smile welcomes the participation of your audience and shows that you interested in building a relationship. Always take a break from your work or activities before speaking in any formal meetings. For instance, if you had a tough meeting with the top managers, take a break before addressing your team or junior.

  1. Use a Low Vocal Pitch

A high vocal pitch creates an impression that you are nervous and unsure of your capabilities. A low-pitched voice is preferred at the workplace. One way to lower your vocal pitch is to calm yourself down by taking deep breaths. Breathe in and out slowly before taking the stand. Another trick is to put your lips together occasionally. Practice putting your lips together before making or answering important phone calls at work. The person on the other end can tell if you are nervous or confidence by listening to your pitch. Sometimes questions and comments from your audience may make you nervous and raise your vocal pitch. Speak slowly and breathe deeply to lower your pitch. Your voice will eventually go back to an optimal pitch.

  1. Positive Eye Contact

Eye contact is important in all settings including the work place. You may have to go against your beliefs especially when addressing your superiors at work. Shy people tend to avoid eye contact while others believe that it is disrespectful to maintain eye contact with superiors. Moving your eyes all over the room shows that you are nervous and unsure. No matter how shy or nervous you are, look at the person or the team that you are addressing. You cannot pass a job interviewing if you answer all the questions while looking away or down. Again, do not overdo it. Sometimes eye contact can be intimidating and you do not want to create an impression that you are too assertive. Use positive and balanced eye contact.

  1. Watch How You Approach People

If you want to speak to anyone at the workplace, look for an opportunity to approach him or her directly. Do not run after your team leader or speak as he or she is walking away. You may end up mixing your words and saying the wrong things. Make sure that you are standing or sitting opposite to your audience at all times. This way, you can watch their response to your message and address any concerns. Avoid approaching people from the side or startling them to initiate a conversation. You earn respect, trust, and confidence when you approach people the right way. Extend your hand when you meet new people and give a firm handshake. Shake a firm handshake as you maintain eye contact, and smile.

  1. Do not try too Hard

Avoid paying so much attention to your body language that you forget to interact naturally. Practice positive body language at home or in social settings and then apply it at the workplace. For instance, you can practice smiling, standing and sitting in the right posture, gestures, and facial expressions in front of a mirror. Your audience can tell when you are trying too hard to appear confident or impress them. Over thinking or overdoing any body language trick gives a negative impression about your confidence and personality. For instance, smiling all the time makes people suspicious that you are covering something with your smile. Practice and master one or two things at a time until you can apply them naturally in your formal interactions.